There should only be a few things
If you allow it too much to fall into your bucket of things worth fighting for you’re going to get off track from your true calling. It’s easy to end up fighting battles that aren’t yours to fight. For me, there are only three things I think are worth fighting for, relationships as in my family and friends, my dreams, and being honest about my truths. Anything outside of that, is a distraction or entertainment.
I want my family and friends to have a life where they grow up knowing their worth, their voice, and what they bring to the table. I want to bring those things into their lives. In the past I did drop the ball on those things but I have rebuilt myself so many times that the only thing I want to bring into their presence from here on out is encouragement, empowerment, support and what ever else goes with loving them unconditionally.
My dreams have been my only reason to get out of bed. I lean on them. My hope is that my dreams will outlive me. What else is better to have in our darkest times than hope in our dreams?
I was a quiet girl. Sometimes I was a coward to keep the peace. Sometimes I blew up because I kept my mouth shut too long. I’ve made a lot of mistakes by not being honest about my feelings and about who I am as a person. Sometimes I even say things I don’t mean when someone treats me as if I’m worthless. And for those inappropriate things I’ve said, I’m sorry. I reacted and I shouldn’t have. I understand some things I have said can’t be taken back, but I will show you with my actions that I didn’t mean them. Please know, everyday I push myself to be honest about how I really feel. Everyday I try to explain why I’m angry, sad, or quiet. I’m not out here trying to be malicious with my honesty. I’m not using my honesty to prove to you that I can say things that are going to upset you. I’m honest because I know it’s my best option.
Those are my priorities. Those are the things I want to focus on. What are your top three priorities in life. I’d love to hear them.
You sound like a very pleasant person to be around! Complete honesty, combined with a flair of quick wittedness are high in my list of things I like about myself. As for things I find worth fighting for, life has thrown me a very bitter pill, and I’ve kind of lost the will to fight. Just don’t touch my kids.
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Aw man that sucks that life has thrown you a bitter pill. Thank you for the compliment. I’m actually a pretty boring kid at this point in my life hahaha but I’m moving forward so that’s a good thing.
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There are days in which I dream of a boring life. But we all have to live with our choices that seemed a good idea at the time.
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We do have to live with our choices but they don’t need to hold us back from doing better in the future.
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True, mostly. Some choices become a responsibility that lasts a lifetime…
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I don’t know what youve gone through or what you’re learning from but I think having a responsibility for a lifetime is something that is part of growth. Like Sisiphus. He opened pandoras box and was punished for it everyday. But he gave humans access to things he felt they had a right to, I believe. I’m a little rusty on that story but anyway I think being bound to responsibility for your choices is one of the best places to grow and learn from your mistakes and it helps us to do better in other areas. I also think it can help us to understand and nurture those who go through similar experiences.
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All true. Let me say it’s no mistake of mine, it’s a choice and fate that fucked things up: I got married, it was bliss, I got two children, which was good. Then my wife died at age 41, when the kids were 3 and 8. Raising kids together is doable, being both mom and dad is the toughest thing I’ve done in life. I’m taking this responsibility seriously, and it has it’s ups, but it’s neither boring nor bliss.
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I am so sorry for your loss. I can only imagine how you are feeling. Yes being both mom and dad is hard. You didn’t choose the loss but you choose everyday to be a parent, how you will parent and thats on top of your own struggles. It’s tough. I hear you.
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Now you understand that some days I dream of a boring life… Which, of course, can no longer be accomplished.
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I understand a lot since you’ve explained to me your circumstances. I appreciate you sharing for sure. I hope that moments of bliss and stillness find you.
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I’m hoping with you. Till then I identify with my spider character (the first chapter of that story is here: https://bentrein.wordpress.com/2020/01/27/one/).
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Awesome story! I’m glad you shared it with me
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