“Don’t let your loyalty become your slavery.”
It took me some time to learn this. There’s two parts to this: setting clear boundaries, and learning to say no, (or at least take time to think about it).
Part One
Setting clear boundaries
When you’re called to leave a situation because it’s toxic, it no longer deserves your loyalty. And it’s clear that it’s toxic when your clear set boundaries are disregarded. It can be hard to notice if your boundaries are being disrespected if you have no boundaries set in the first place. Finding out and practicing what boundaries work for you is important. There is such thing as being too rigid.
Part Two
Learning to say no
If you’re saying yes to everything in all aspects of your life out of loyalty you’re burning yourself out. This is where knowing your values helps to prioritize your live events. I want you to keep in mind that you don’t always have to answer right away. Take time to think about your schedule. At the same time it’s important to say Yes! to the things that make your fruits of the spirit grow!
At the end of the day loyalty has its place but loyalty taken too far is called codependency. Take care of yourself, know your beliefs and values, and do your best to improve the life of yourself and those around you. That is where liberation lies.
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