The Summer of Self Love

I had a great day today. Busy, productive. Lot’s of planning and completing and starting new things. A few years ago, I was really tired and you know what, I was supposed to be tired. I wish I was easier on myself for having such low energy. Healing takes it outta you. But to be frank, tired is depressing. and lonely. But now we’re here on the other side and I’m feeling good. I’m ready to take on all my goals and my daily habits and my dreams and accept it all with open arms. I also had a frozen beverage while listening to all my favorite Disney songs before writing this so…. that could have a lot to do with how I’m feeling.

Here’s to Summer 2022 The summer of self love!!

Intuitive Mind

The Intuitive mind is a sacred gift and the rational mind is a faithful servant. We have created a society that honors the servant and has forgotten the gift.

Albert Einstein Taken from Trust and Inspire by Stephen M.R. Covey

Intuitive minds are sacred and the rational part of our minds are meant to serve? What does this mean to you? To me it allows me to validate the type of person I am and explains why I rub people the wrong way s often. My rational mind comes out when it’s time to edit but during creation, it’s told to find something else to do until it’s welcomed. It took time to learn how to do this with my writing. And I think there’s a happy medium where I can let my rational mind chime in at times rather than sitting it in the corner.

I’m still learning how to talk about the intuitive mind so this is about as far as I can go when it comes to writing about this quote. But maybe next time I’ll find some way to talk about the gift of being intuitive.

Until then, you should totally read through my most viewed post that speaks briefly of the MacDonald Sisters.

MacDonald Sisters

New Book Interest

Trust and Inspire: How Truly Great Leaders Unleash Greatness in Others by Stephen M. R. Covey

I couldn’t finish it in the time I was at the library, but I also had a hard time putting it down.

To inspire another person is to breathe new life, purpose, and passion into them. Because when we genuinely see greatness within them, they begin to see possibilities for themselves they hadn’t previously considered—or even seen. They look beyond artificial limitations. 

https://www.instagram.com/stephenmrcovey/

Being Present/ Goal Setting

Your goals are the road maps that guide you and show you what is possible for your life.

Les Brown

I’m due to revisit and set new goals. This summer I really wanted to focus on being present. 😀 I think I’m doing well with it. I’m usually decent at goal setting but I was definitely not so good at appreciating my present state. Something had to change. Which is why I’ve been more intentional about appreciating my resources. Been getting out to local parks and beaches, libraries, the gym at our local Rally Point, spending as much free time that I have with family and doing whatever activities are accessible to us. Being more open to community events and community resources has really improved the time I have to spend with my family.

I think goals are super important but I think they bring more value when you’re intentionally living your best life.

Learning From a Child

Sunday Reflections

Triptych Part Three is in the works. I’m working on a scene where an adult is put into a position where he has to learn from a youth. I appreciate when I get to learn from those younger than me. I’ve never really had any problem with it. I think both young and old have so much to learn from each other. When I add this scene into my story (an adult learning from a youth), it’s not to belittle the knowledge that comes with experience, but to play with the idea that when two people come together for common good, they both can learn something from each other.

How do you think you’d feel if you were put into a position where you’re expected to learn from a child?

Balance Yourself Out

There’s going to be a million times in life when you’re going to have to balance yourself out emotionally. Especially those of us who are more sensitive than others. We get high from what seems like small things, which always comes with a low, kind of like an emotional hangover. We get low from what seems like small things too. Unlike the high though, the lows don’t come with an automatic high afterward. Life is all about learning to manage ourselves through ups and downs. Not manage ourselves so strictly that we miss the experience of feeling. We must manage ourselves in a way that we as sensitives are still productive. We balance ourselves out so that the highs (or lows) don’t hinder our best selves.

Today would be a day where I try my best to keep my chin up, appreciate what I have in front of me and work differently for what I don’t, accept what I can’t change and most importantly move in a way the creates a better world for all of us, including myself. All I can know for sure is that I’m going to do what’s best for my family and my communities.

Here’s the affirmation that’s been keeping mindful of my emotions.

I am an evolving and expanding being with an infinite amount of possibilities.

I Want to See You

I felt unheard for a very long time. I also stayed quiet in protest more often than when I spoke up because I felt as though when I’d finally speak up, I wasn’t heard. I am the type of outlier that misses social ques. But I’m also the type of outlier, when given a challenge, I charge at it head on. So these days, I’m much better at understanding what’s going on.

Since I felt unheard for so long, one thing I try to work on is making sure the women (and men but this post is about women) around me feel heard. Even as a woman, I’m still learning to respect the voices of all the women in my life. It’s so easy to put my chin down and walk away when conversations gets too complex or maybe even too emotional. But I’m not trying to be like that. I wanna be a woman’s woman. I wanna see us rise. I wanna lift our voices. I want us to change the world so we can live with safety and wellbeing as a natural part of all of our environments.

Some people say I see you, but I don’t just see you and all the things you have to say, I want to see you. I want to be intentional about seeing you. And I want my actions to line up with that.

With that being said I must close with this quote from Sheryl Sandberg.

We need women at all levels, including the top, to change the dynamic, reshape the conversation, to make sure women’s voices are heard and heeded, not overlooked and ignored.

Sheryl Sandberg

I Think You’re Great

There’s nothing to explain here. You’re enough. Your peace, your energy, your efforts, it’s all enough. There’s was a time when I felt like I wasn’t doing enough no matter how hard I worked. I burned myself out and lived on anxious highs. Not anymore! Now, I thrive in a sustainable way. I am still working on not over-doing myself. It feels easier to overwork myself but that’s a lie I tell myself to maintain the control I don’t need.

So in times of peace and in times of chaos, remind yourself that everything is ok and that I think you’re great!

Let It Come

There is a whole entire life ahead and it’s coming to you. Let it come.

Before I got married, I was afraid to shoot for the stars. That didn’t work out for me.

By the time I got married, I was certain on what I wanted and was racing toward it. That didn’t work out the way I planned

These days, I’m not as certain of what’s to come, more courageous, still a bit ambitious but… open to letting things unfold as they may. It’s not perfect. It is way less stressful though. It also helps me prioritize my energy toward things that I value.

Whatever comes, let it come.
What stays, let it stay.
What goes, let it go.

– H. W. L. Poonja (Papaji)

Yes I have worked through some great things but I do struggle still before my big events. There’s just so much uncertainty with most events, you just never know. I struggle with not knowing which way my event will go. This year I tried my best to really focus on self care right when I started feeling anxious. It’s a work in progress but I’m sure I’ll get the hang of it someday.

We don’t have to be good at letting go or letting things come, we just gotta work at it everyday and eventually you’ll get a bit better and better until bam you have an entire new thing to work on and letting go of that one thing something in the past.

Meet Her Where She Is

The last two weeks, I had been anticipating an event so it was hard to relax and spend time with my little one. Today I wanted to make sure she got my full attention. I’m going to be honest though, neither of us are summer girls. We both had our moments. But I made sure I got down to her level and played with her and made sure to get as many laughs from her as possible. I forget a lot that part of respecting all of her means that there are more times I have to come to her and meet her where she is.

We need this sometimes too life. We need that group of people, that pet. the person, that will meet you right where you are.