Giving Too Much Away?

The worst thing: to give yourself away in exchange for not enough love.

Joyce Carol Oates

I like this quote. I’ve been sitting thinking about how many times I gave myself away because I didn’t speak up. I’m thinking about how many times I gave myself away because I said yes when I wanted to say no. But I also think about the times I gave myself away by saying no out of fear and anxiety.

But after thinking about all that I came to a conclusion. Let me start here.

Lately, I’ve been reminding myself that I’m exactly where I’m supposed to be at exactly the right time. I tell myself that I trust the process and timing for my life. That thought shifts my mindset and leads me to the idea that it’s much better to give all the love I need to myself instead of putting pressure on others to love me enough. Just writing this releases my worries about whether I’ve given away too much of myself to others. It allows me to take responsibility and power for my own peace, joy, and love.

I love this quote and how it provoked me to reflect on how much of me I’m giving away.

Self love it up, with healthy priorities, boundaries, goals,

Published by Jayne

Jayne is a writer. On her free time she likes to be with her family hiking outdoors and traveling. New England is her home and place of birth. When asked what she wants to teach the world she replied, "Don't stop searching. Too many times, in my old life, I put my search aside for more 'important matters.' I didn't realize the thing I was searching for held what was most important; my soul purpose." Jayne works daily on improving her craft and at times can get down on herself, but her favorite morning mantra is "It's a new day." and that's what she strives to start with.

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