Keeping Your Commitments for Fulfillment

Fulfillment- the achievement of something desired, promised, or predicted.

We’ve all been through hard times, but even then, we can still follow through with our commitments to ourselves.

I oftentimes say I yes before really thinking about it, but now that Sunday is my day of solitude, I am immediately hesitant about making any plans that day. It’s not always a definite no; it’s usually more like, “I’ll have to see how I’m feeling.”

Since I started doing Sunday Solitude, like 10 years ago, I’ve learned to trust myself, which led to more self-confidence and security in myself and my own word. This allowed me to fulfill my own desires (that usually rise or originate from my beliefs and values). So today, I wanted to think about and share how we can go into August with the intention of deep fulfillment.

There’s a few ways to ensure we keep our commitments to ourselves even under pressure.

• Ensure you have a reminder about your commitment on all your calendars and scheduled into your routine.
• Have go to lines that come easily and off the cuff. “Let me think about that.” “I have to see.” “Wow, thanks for thinking of me. Are there any other days that might work?”
• Make it easy. Set the mood, and add things to your commitment that bring you joy. For example: a playlist, a planned outfit, a candle to light with your favorite scent, your favorite water bottle or mug to sip from.
• Create little mementos or reminders that light your fire and inspire you to keep that commitment: Post-it notes, stickers, a little reminder on your desktop background, figurines, and maybe even a tiny pebble as a reminder.
• Make it a game. This can be funny. Have people ask you for help, and your only job in this game is to say no. Don’t explain. Don’t cave. Just say no.

When you’re used to giving to the point of depletion, it can feel weird to do these things. They may feel silly at first but these tools have worked for me. I think it’s important to share them.

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what’s most important here is your commitments to yourself. It’s great to write them down! Yes, but it gives us even deeper fulfillment to follow through with our commitments to ourselves.

I hope we carry deep fulfillment into August!

What do you think? How you feeling about this post?