When the going gets tough

When the going gets tough, admit it, find your peace, find the good, and keep going.

I wrote admit it because it’s important to talk about the hard times. That’s where connection lives. That’s where you find the will to face your demons. I placed it first because it takes priority to all the rest. We like to show the world that we got this. We like to pretend like we were born to carry the world on our shoulders. But that’s not how we grow. That’s not how we gain strong connections with others. That’s just getting started. The next step is finding your peace.

Once you realize what’s going on and discuss it with those you trust, it’s important to find your peace in the chaos. Your shelter in the storm. There’s too much that you can’t control. There’s too much that you’ve got to let go of. Finding your peace can be as challenging as admitting your struggles. People might even look at you like you’re not anxious enough. But if you can maintain peace in the storm, you’ll have the endurance to make it through to the other side. The peace you find is the best investment you can make for your present and your future.

The next step not necessarily in this order is finding the good. I’m not one for toxic positivity but I find that gratitude has it’s place in tough situations. Especially the complex ones.

And last but not least, keep going. Our lives go forward. Either we’re going to get dragged along or we’re going to stand up more forward with our own two feet. Don’t get me wrong, this isn’t about grief, anxiety, and depression. Sometimes you need to stop and let life go ahead for your own wellbeing. And I stand firmly by that. The point is, take the reigns of your life. Create the future you dream of. Do the healing you need to do to get there.