Self Care

What does it take to take care of yourself? What does it take to say no to the things that don’t align with your values?

My initial answer is a job. An income. But that doesn’t make much sense at all. It doesn’t take having a job to say no to things that don’t suit you. On the contrary, having a job requires you to know how to say no for your own sustainability.

It does take money to feed, clothe, and house yourself. I’m not saying you don’t need money for basic needs. I’m saying you should take care of yourself whether you have the money or not. Walk, read books, make friends with yourself, write, these things are all accessible with or without a job.

Point is that finally having an income isn’t going to instantly make you take care of yourself. If anything. it will exasperate the problem. Separate the idea of taking care of yourself from having an income. They are both important but the job relies on you taking care of yourself. It shouldn’t be the other way around.

Published by Jayne

Jayne is a writer. On her free time she likes to be with her family hiking outdoors and traveling. New England is her home and place of birth. When asked what she wants to teach the world she replied, "Don't stop searching. Too many times, in my old life, I put my search aside for more 'important matters.' I didn't realize the thing I was searching for held what was most important; my soul purpose." Jayne works daily improving her craft and at times can get down on herself, but her favorite morning mantra is "It's a new day." and that's what she strives to start with.

3 thoughts on “Self Care

  1. Agreed! I personally toyed with self care in various ways, starting as basic as making my bed to showing up for myself at difficult times. Surely they make up important instances of self care. But the best self care I’ve done and settled on, is accepting my thoughts and feelings. Basically radical self-acceptance. And that made everything else, every other self care project, a bit easier for me to do, because it shifted my mindset from that of an authoritative type of self care (felt as do/don’t) to a more gentle and compassionate one (felt more as let’s/what if/how about.)

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    1. That is such a great addition to this post. Thank you for reminding me about the gentleness needed to fully embrace those moments. That makes me kind of emotional. I’m glad you decided to take your journey and I’m glad our paths have crossed.

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