I was brought up in the Christian community. A big thing that we were taught growing up was to be humble. I think humility is great but it’s taught in a way that made me feel like being proud of myself was a sin. So today I was working through my internal blocks. One of the exercises it to speak in a way that you already have the success. When I started to speak of my success, I instantly felt shame and pushed the statement away. The voice that told me to rethink being proud of my success was so ingrained and so subtle. Instead of flat out denying it, I was going to reword it in a way that was more “acceptable.” But success is something to be proud of! There’s no good reason to deny myself the pride that comes from my hard work and efforts.
It is this subtle re-wording that almost held me back. And that’s just one of the many things that I have to work on. It’s wild how subtle it was. It’s funny because I sat in a masterclass led by Louisa Havers and she explained that we have our set points. Our minds will keep us in that place and it will fight hard to keep us there. So if I would have listened to that small voice telling me not to be proud of my success, I would have pivoted to soothe that voice and it would have kept me blocked. That voice would have kept telling me to be proud of anything but that.
What’s great is that my life long bestie Melissa Payne who started her own business called Building Happiness posted this just the other day and yall know I love my words of affirmation!! This post lit up my whole day.
You keep doing the work you love. Find joy in it. Find joy in the small things. Be proud of what your work makes you feel and be proud of the fruits that come from your labor. Don’t do it to prove anything. Don’t do it because you wanna be better than someone else. Do the work because you’re called to do it.