Expanding

I’m learning to have a more stable home life.

Our home life is generally pretty stable. We aren’t a perfect family but we’ve been blessed to be able to stay home with our two year old. But let’s talk about unstable homes and housing insecurity.

Housing insecurity will really have you coming out of your character or in other words, it causes a decline in mental health. Unstable living situations also also cause a decline in mental health.

Having a safe place where you can get a good nights sleep and feel safe enough to be yourself provides individuals with the foundation they need to pursue success. Having a stable home with healthy individuals who lead with love and self love creates a safe place where individuals can learn to live and work with others.

You can be successful when you don’t have those things. It just takes more work. People who worry about where they’re going to sleep safely at night have less energy to worry about how to fill out a college application. Their energy is spent trying to figure out how to manage the family or where they’ll keep their stuff or whether they will get any sleep at all.

What does a secure and stable living situation look like?

I’m working through this for myself right now. I was very loved growing up but naturally when you’re in a single parent home and your mother is struggling with severe depression, that is not a stable living environment. Don’t get me wrong, I’d always choose my mom. I love her very much and I’m so grateful that she took time out of her life to raise me and my brother. There are worse situations and better situations. For me, it’s naturally going to cause a block or a limitation on what I have access to when it comes to a stable living situation. Generational limitations are taught through behaviors that create our own internal belief systems. Then those behaviors are proven right through experience due to our limiting belief systems which bring us back full circle to the original belief. Here that belief is unstable living situation.

I say all this to share that I’m working expanding the amount of stability in my home. I want to expect more and set the bar higher for my home with ease. No stressful yelling matches. No burn out. Just some good ole fresh and clean stability in my home. From relationships to finances.