It never feels good to feel like you don’t have any options. Feeling stuck is universal but where you feel stuck can be so different for so many people. While Sammy is loving peanut butter sandwiches everyday, his mother feels bad she can’t afford to offer him more variety. Then we have Gale who can afford more than enough groceries but is in a job position with no upward movement and no growth.
Stuck never feels good. Feeling stuck leads to burn out, bad moods, poor eating habits poor mental health in general. So once you acknowledge that you’re feeling stuck. –Wait let’s talk about that. Acknowledging you’re feeling stuck can be the hard part. We like to come up with reasons to justify why we are stuck. Sammy’s mom might be saying to herself, I’m doing my best and I don’t want to take food from someone who really needs it.” Jordan might be saying, “I gotta pay the bills” Both of these responses aren’t wrong. They are sound and have their place. But these responses take away from that intimacy you could have with yourself. It takes away your ability to listen and be heard. So it may seem easy in writing but acknowledging your feelings can be hard work.
Aright here we are, the stuck feeling is acknowledged. Now figure out where you’re really stuck. Is it funds? Is it your career? Is it something else? Take that area of your life and think about what it would look like if you were unstuck. Would you have a full fridge? Would you be working less hours and getting paid to travel? This is an important step. Sometimes we force ourselves to accept a situation rather think about what we would truly want.
Now you know what you have and you know what you what. Take a couple days to think about how to fill that gap. If you’re funds are too low to provide your child with more variety, what if you tried using local resources that have enough to share with all tax brackets, like a food pantry or a job program to help you move up to higher paying position? If you’re feeling stuck in your career, what if you took some of your free time to see what it would take to get hired for that traveling job you always dreamed of. Filling these gaps will take some investment but you invested in where you are today, why not invest in a place where you want to be?
There’s a lot of different ways get from where to are to where you want to be. Gratitude helps with the bad feelings which can give you a boost to take action. Some other ways, is bullet journaling your goals, vision boards (virtual or collages), find a mentor or accountability partner who may share similar goals, and surrounding yourself with people who support you and your goals.
Let’s create a world where we unstick ourselves before we hate ourselves. Let’s invest in what we can to be who we want to be and dream what we want to dream.
We must be free not because we claim freedom, but because we practice it.William Faulkner