Embracing My Femininity

I’d like to personally invite you on my journey toward embracing my femininity.

“A girl should be two things: Who and what she wants.”  -Coco Chanel Fashion Designer & Businesswoman

While talking with my husband about how I can ensure that men feel safe in their masculinity around me as a psychologist, I realized it hadn’t occurred to me to ask myself what makes me feel more like a woman. And the minute I stepped away and asked myself, “What makes you feel more like a woman?” tears started flowing down my cheeks. I have had the conversation with myself a million times. Like, oh, I want to do something girly or get my hair done, stuff like that. But to genuinely ask myself in a concerned way, “When is the last time you felt feminine?” That hasn’t happened.

I haven’t felt feminine since I had my second child. This, of course, isn’t my child’s fault. It’s just that childbirth does not in any way make me feel feminine. I feel like I’m preparing for war before and at war during the whole process. Afterwards, I feel like a survivor of battle. Healing and making sure my baby thrives felt so very lonely for me. I just never really bounced back into my feminine self since. So my goal over these next couple of months is to focus on embracing my femininity and loving that part of myself again.

I’m going to be honest, I don’t think it’s going to be as easy as sounds. But maybe I’m closer than I think.

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