I do the very best I can to look upon life with optimism and hope and looking forward to a better day.
Rosa Parks
I try my best to live optimistically. There was a period of time in my life where it was hard for me to find the bright side of things, but now I’ve found it. Things might get rough. I might fall in and out of optimistic states, but all I know is that the good times are always headed my way. Knowing that the good times return, helps me keep my chin up when things are rough.
What does it mean to be worthy? One definition says, “deserving effort, attention, or respect.”
You are worthy and deserving of effort, attention and respect.
When someone treats you as if you’re worthless, they miss out on the greatest parts of you that you bring to the table. Take note of who you are and how far you’ve come. Take note of your priorities to make space for the worthiness of those around you. Stand up for your worth. And stand up for other’s worth. These things make the world a better place.
How can we use Plant’s advice to guide our actions? I’m going to share one word, forgiveness. I’m going to share one more word acceptance. Combine the two and the past will no longer be a hinderance. Instead the past will open doors that lead to your present moment. And once you can live unabashedly in the present the future is your to sculpt.
I lived in the past for a long time. I thought I was forgiving but it was actually shame and resentment bubbling below the surface mixed with unhealthy boundaries. Once I took time to forgive myself and those around me, it began my journey directly into the present moment.
I personally think the present is a great place to dwell, especially as a writer. Even as a present dweller, I naturally try my best to plan for the future. Even when I plan events I’m planning on how these events will impact people’s present in a way that will improve their future. I think we should live in all three as often as we can. We have to learn from our past, find joy in the present, and have hope for the future. One of my most favorite quotes is “it’s a new day.” If I messed up real bad yesterday, todays a great day to try again. But we can’t try again without learning from the lessons of yesterday.
The key is not to prioritize what’s on your schedule, but to schedule your priorities.
Stephen R Covey
I’m a planner. I like to think about how things could go ahead of time. Unless I’m writing. I write with a vague plan but I think it’s because I haven’t finished a novel yet. Maybe I’ll be more of a planner as I go along here. It’s hard for me to plan my writing especially because I know that writing changes us. In school for writing and research, we start with a good guess on our research paper, then we do the research and most times we find our guess was far too vague or maybe even completely wrong. But outside of that, if I can plan it out, I’m going to do my best to plan it.
Event’s, outfits, family activities, are just a few things I enjoy planning. It lowers my anxiety. It helps me to communicate to those around me and hopefully lowers their anxiety. When I make plans I understand that things might not work out. Sometimes they fail and I get upset but I have found that plans are easier to change when you have them.
Which leads me to the quote by Stephen Covey, “The key is not to prioritize what’s on your schedule, but to schedule your priorities.” When you know you’re priorities, it’s much easier to manage making plans. Once you know that your family is your priority, you schedule their needs to your life. Some people require a little extra time alone for their well being. Let’s take a 3 year for instance, a three year old needs more potty stops and leg stretches than a 30 year old. So you factor in potty breaks and play time into the day. Some humans need access to other things for their own well being and if they are a priority in your life, you make sure those things are as accessible to them as possible. It shows love. Even though it requires some mindful planning ahead, investing in your priorities is always worth it.
Now’s a great time to revisit your priorities so that you can schedule them in.
I’m so happy to have a life full of love and family. We have our own goals and we come together in our own ways. I think in some ways we’ll come together more over time.
I don’t know what life has in store for us but I know what I’d like for life to have in store for us. Lives full of growing together, of continued learning of ourselves, health, travel, and amazing memories made with our families. Everything else is second tier to those goals.
Parenting isn’t easy. When I became a mama I was flooded with so many emotions. The biggest revelation was that my mom raised two of us by herself until we were teenagers. I’m so grateful for my mother, even with all the struggles she faced while raising us, she still did her best as a single mama. She has always been the type of person who tries her best to do the right thing even when no one is watching. Even today, she’s still right here to help me and my family when we need it.
I just wanted to take a post to let the world know how grateful I am for my mama.
To effectively communicate, we must realize that we are all different in the way we perceive the world and use this understanding as a guide to our communication with others.
Tony Robbins
Communication is hard work. What could go wrong if you share too much of your personal life? What could go right? As a writer and blogger I often share personal things I’m struggling with or have struggled with. Outside of my blog, I do my best to make sure I’m in an appropriate environment and decide what stories to share from there. Stories can shape the way we look at a person in good and bad ways. Tell a great story at the wrong moment and you could ruin someone’s day. Tell a decent story at a great time and you could lift someone’s spirit for days -heck maybe for a lifetime.
Lately, when it comes to communication, I’ve been trying my best to communicate and set healthy boundaries for myself. When it comes to communicating boundaries some people will have no understanding as to why you set those boundaries. Which is where the challenge comes in for me. I’m still figuring out how much to explain as to why I’ve created the habit of setting that boundary. What’s the best policy when setting boundaries? Should we explain why we set those boundaries or should we set our boundaries and leave it at that?
Life is not easy for any of us. But what of that? We must have perseverance and, above all, confidence in ourselves. We must believe we are gifted for something and that this thing must be attained.
Marie Curie
Confidence in ourselves. Yes, we hear this a lot. Especially growing up, right. Then we even learn different ways to mask our insecurities and fake our confidence. Then even get that reinforced with quotes like fake it till you make it. But we get it, have confidence. Yea yea yea. Let’s read the next line because I think that’s what we need to hear in order to truly have confidence in ourselves. I’m going to re word it and put in first person to really let it sink in.
I believe I was gifted for a purpose and I must find that purpose.
There’s the insight. Confidence comes with learning to accept and invest in your gifts. With the lessons that come with investing and accepting your gifts, naturally perseverance comes for the ride.
With all that being said, I think if we focus less on all those things, and focus more on learning to allow ourselves to have the things that bring us joy, we’ll find that things get easier as we go. If not easier, we at least give ourselves a more enjoyable challenge.
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