Not Just A Writer

Today I stayed home with my little one. She’s on the BRAT diet but generally ok. We worked on letters. Played with bubbles. Snuggled and had some technology and then ended the day with that new Gudetama series on Netflix. It was cute. I enjoyed getting some rest with my youngest and I even spent some time cooking up some turkey. I had very little faith in myself but I did a nice dry rub and popped that baby in there with love and it came out so moist and delicious. Shocked myself.

What did I learn today?

I love being a mom and supporting my family. They take up most of my brain.

Victory

If you believe in yourself and have dedication and pride – and never quit, you’ll be a winner. The price of victory is high but so are the rewards.

Bear Bryant

I think we can be realistic enough to know that confidence, dedication, and consistency doesn’t always get us the rewards we want. But I feel like those three things bring me pride and joy and they also increase my overall well-being. A few years ago I wasn’t in the greatest place and it had been that way for what felt like forever. Now that I have the energy to do all the things I want to do, I’m excited to be alive and accept all these parts of me that I never really understood how to appreciate. I love this quote because at face value it’s seems overly optimistic then when I think about how those things positively impact my own life, I see how true the statement really is.

I think what’s left out here is that sometimes things like confidence, dedication, and consistency are not accessible to people. Health and security really do affect our ability to access those character traits in a way that’s rewarding.

So I guess I say all that to say that some people don’t have access to the rewards but if you have decent health and security to develop these skills, go for it!! The rewards are priceless.

How’s your Confidence, dedication, and consistency? Do you think those things are overrated?

Gentle Reminder

The best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or even touched — they must be felt with the heart.

Helen Keller

Here’s a gentle reminder that Valentine’s Day is coming up. What are you thinking about doing for the ones you love? Readers Digest gave a list of 45 ideas. Here’s a couple I loved

  1. Recreate your first date
  2. Take a relaxing staycation
  3. Kiss on a mountain top

That’s just three! Check out the list and tell me you favs.

Dr. Martin Luther King Jr Day

With this faith we will be able to transform the jangling discords of our nation into a beautiful symphony of brotherhood. With this faith we will be able to work together, to pray together, to struggle together, to go to jail together, to stand up for freedom together, knowing that we will be free one day.

Dr Martin Luther King Jr. from his “I Have a Dream” speech

Thanks For Reading

You’re welcomed to read here. This isn’t the secret blog. If I did have a secret blog, I would add a password and maybe a small fee (lol) But no seriously, here is where I try my best to reflect about my life experience in a way that may help those around me feel less alone. Since I work on my novel before all other writing commitments, things get rushed and I skip corners. But don’t be fooled, I’m a terrible first drafter. And only a tad better at editing. lol Point being, excuse the typos and sometimes micro tidbits. I truly want to be here. I truly want to write and read my life away. I’m here for a million purposes but the main one being to improve my quality of life by committing to 2 hours everyday doing what I love and want to do for the rest of my life (and maybe even longer than that).

Sidenote: Feel free to let me know you read something you liked on here. Disagree? That’s cool too with some tact and mindfulness thrown on there. It’s totally acceptable in the blog world to comment, like, and share.

I just wanted to take a moment to say whether you’re consistent or pop in here or there to show support, thank you. I appreciate you.

Your Mental Blueprint

Visualize this thing that you want, see it, feel it, believe in it. Make your mental blue print, and begin to build.

Robert Collier

If there’s one thing I want to work on, lately, it’s my visualization. I work on my nobel daily, but I’ve been juggling so much that taking intentional time to visualize it all finished hasn’t made onto my radar until writing this post. I understand the importance of visualization. I understand that it’s probably where some of my greatest inspiration lives. The challenge now is to set some intentional time aside to do it.

Have you visualized your finished wip while you’re writing it? I’d love to hear what you see if you’re willing to share.

I see a box of books and conversations from people who’ve read my book.

Does it Get Easier?

 You can’t use up creativity. The more you use, the more you have.

Maya Angelou

The more you create the more creativity builds. So the less you create the less the creativity you have. Until you explode of course. If we take time to fill the creativity bank everyday, will we have what need to get things done? I think that’s good question. I blog everyday, it doesn’t feel like it gets easier. On the contrary the size and scope of posts I write, seem to expand and grow in complexity and length with the more time I have to spend on my writing. But I have noticed if I miss a blog post or two, it’s much harder to come up with something to write. Like sit and stare at the screen for hours hard to write. Writing is an interesting beast. I don’t think there’s point in which your finished writing. Do you think once you win an amazing prize you feel finished and satisfied? I do wonder.

What do you think? Do you agree that the more you use creativity the more you have? When you write more consistently, is it easier to come up with something?

An Affirmation For You

You are Amazing!! I can believe you’ve accomplished so much. You’re capable of great things.

It’s the small daily habits and the little things that are so worth celebrating.You are worth celebrating!!

To accomplish great things, we must not only act, but also dream; not only plan, but also believe.

Anatole France

It’s Not About Perfection

Leadership is a series of behaviors rather than a role for heroes. 

Margaret Wheatley, writer, teacher, and speaker

Leaders are heros but the series of behaviors part is a huge part of leadership. Self discipline, consistency, respect, boundaries all these things come together to form an amazing leader. Not with the expectation of perfection but showing enough consistency to be reliable in those areas is a great goal.

Leadership isn’t some schmuckadelie barking orders. It the one working beside their team or even more so willing to do the dirty to see their team rise. I’m lucky to some amazing leaders in life who have impacted me in ways that are priceless and will last lifetime and more.

Loneliness

 I found that with depression, one of the most important things you could realize is that you’re not alone.

Dwayne Johnson

Alone? During my darkest days, I didn’t want to be around other people. I wanted to be alone. So when I read quotes like this, I thought I couldn’t relate. Once I shifted my perspective from loneliness as in being with others to loneliness as in lack of connection, I could finally understand the quote. Connection feels good. Made me think even more about how good it can sometimes feel to be understood. That’s when quotes like this one began to make more sense. To be understood, to be heard, to be listened to, that is what takes away the loneliness. You could be in a room full of people who share the same hobbies and life experiences but you’re going to feel mighty lonely in that sea full of people if no ones listens to you or takes time to understand you.

We eliminate loneliness by creating an authentic connection.

That doesn’t instantly cure loneliness or depression but it does help others feel a little less alone. And these days, with all the loss we are experiencing, every little bit counts.