Blogging Daily

I’m feeling depleted tonight. I had a great day though! I just really struggle with blogging daily. Maybe someday this will get easier but for now, it’s quite the challenge. When I feel like this, I like to remind myself why I blog.

I blog daily because I sleep better and my days go better when I do.

That’s really all there is to it. Building the habit of daily writing was hard but now I struggle with writing things I’m interested in. Or having the energy to do the research so I can write about the things I’m interested in.

I’m frustrated, but we’ll get there.

Be Proud of Yourself

I was brought up in the Christian community. A big thing that we were taught growing up was to be humble. I think humility is great but it’s taught in a way that made me feel like being proud of myself was a sin. So today I was working through my internal blocks. One of the exercises it to speak in a way that you already have the success. When I started to speak of my success, I instantly felt shame and pushed the statement away. The voice that told me to rethink being proud of my success was so ingrained and so subtle. Instead of flat out denying it, I was going to reword it in a way that was more “acceptable.” But success is something to be proud of! There’s no good reason to deny myself the pride that comes from my hard work and efforts.

It is this subtle re-wording that almost held me back. And that’s just one of the many things that I have to work on. It’s wild how subtle it was. It’s funny because I sat in a masterclass led by Louisa Havers and she explained that we have our set points. Our minds will keep us in that place and it will fight hard to keep us there. So if I would have listened to that small voice telling me not to be proud of my success, I would have pivoted to soothe that voice and it would have kept me blocked. That voice would have kept telling me to be proud of anything but that.

What’s great is that my life long bestie Melissa Payne who started her own business called Building Happiness posted this just the other day and yall know I love my words of affirmation!! This post lit up my whole day.

https://www.facebook.com/claimmyhappiness

You keep doing the work you love. Find joy in it. Find joy in the small things. Be proud of what your work makes you feel and be proud of the fruits that come from your labor. Don’t do it to prove anything. Don’t do it because you wanna be better than someone else. Do the work because you’re called to do it.

Time Flies

Today went by so quick, I can’t believe I got anything done. I was wiped out by the time I got home and got all the groceries organized.

Side note: You know what I appreciate, paper bags. I’m huge into recycling and getting it all out to the curb in a mostly neat fashion. I feel like paper bags look much neater and organized than just tossing all the recyclables in the bins. This is just a small habit that brings me joy.

Now back to my day, it’s time to write. I’m so wiped out, I’m struggling to find the inner strength to write tonight. But that’s not what this post is about. This post is about how quick today went by. I wonder if I stopped moving, if things would have slowed down or if it was just one of those days.

I’m just glad that I’m feeling like things are moving forward. I’m glad I was able to be so moving around so much that I didn’t have a moment to check the time. I was so tired for so long. I have been waiting for this feeling and these actions for so long. Dreaming, self teaching, watching, and writing all about where I am now. I’m here. I’m thankful. And I’m thankful for my past self getting me to this point. So today flew by but these are the days I’ve been preparing for.

The secret of your future is hidden in your daily routine.

Mike Murdock

For Valentines Day

I woke up and gave my girls Valentine’s Gifts. For breakfast tried to make them pink eggs. (It failed lol) We had mini pancakes though! It was nice to have that family time in the am.

I did my usual morning routine and went to get some work done.

I came home to flowers from my oldest and my husband, chocolates and a beautiful card with pictures of us on the inside. I was very surprised. I just planned for dinner. I love chocolates.

We had dinner at our usual spot and came home to the kiddos.

It was a nice day. I have zero complaints.

Thank you family!! I love you!

The End

For the Conscious Writer

The end goal is supposed to be a stark contrast from the beginning.

Saschia Johnson

This is a quote taken from yesterday. When I wrote it, I was referring to the piece of art itself. But I forgot how much art changes us as artists.

I have been thinking about yesterday’s post all day and I couldn’t figure out why that sentence was standing out to me. What I’ve come to think is what stands out is the cliché that all endings are new beginnings. When we finish writing one book, that doesn’t mean our life is over and done with. When a project reaches fruition, we don’t wash our hands with life and move onto another dimension. When we dive full force into our projects and creations they often lead to other things. So what’s wild is your art if you’re arting properly, should continue on and (if you believe in that type of thing) into the next life.

Let’s create the scene: You go into your project with the question or problem your bringing to attention. You’ve got your mediums, your plans, your research. Now it’s time for the work. While you’re working you mind is focused on it. You’re outlining the life of a homeless man. You put yourself in his shoes. You’re tracing the face of a woman who deserves a better life and you capture it in her tired smile. Thinking about it this way, made me realize the other end isn’t a stark difference because it’s complete or better than where it started which was non existence. It’s a stark difference because your perception of that project has change throughout development.

It’s the same with a good research paper. You start out with a question and you have experience and education so you make an educated guess. Here’s mine. My initial drive in college was to find ways to make women more ambitious. Then when I did my research I realized women were not only extremely ambitious but also resilient. What they needed was time to heal from generations of mistreatment. Whether in our generation or handed down to us from past generations. When I shifted my mindset, it really helped me connect better with myself and my project. There’s nothing I want more than a world full of healed women. And I have learned that any statement like that means the true work starts with myself.

So back to the end “The End” The end of what? One project? One question? One lifestyle. There’s really no The End to our art. It’s eternal as long as there’s eyes to see it. The only thing that ends is the old perceptions transforming into new ideas.

Genesis 1

In the beginning God created the heavens and the earth. Now the earth was formless and empty, darkness was over the surface of the deep, and the Spirit of God was hovering over the waters.
Genesis 1:1-2

When God started he created the heavens and the earth. That’s just two things. It says here, one out of the two things, the earth, was formless and empty. That’s an entire half of his creative process. As creators, it’s important to remember that the beginning is supposed to be messy, chaotic, and formless. The end goal is supposed to be a stark contrast from the beginning.

As creators in the beginning stages, we start with a general idea and then we mold and shape and build. The way we mold, shape, and build looks different for everyone but even so that’s where we start. Some people mold and shape with outlines. Some people mold and shape with images of scenes or characters scattered about. Some people develop characters and let them tell the story. That’s the fascinating part of the creative process. However there’s the fascination.

The creative process is exciting when you’re looking from the outside in, but when you’re the one in the muck and chaos, it can drown you but only if you let it. Let’s note that muck and chaos are not negative or positive, they’re just ideas without order. It’s when you allow doubt into the muck and chaos that it can grow into something that feels out of control and unattainable. Confidence is key. Confidence and trusting the process. You gotta let the chaos reign for it’s allotted time, so you can find it’s weaknesses and build around them.

All the chaos and muck is worth wading through to get to the final product. Well, that’s what I’ve learned while being part of the creative community (and now the entrepreneur community). The reason why creativity is hard is not because no one has good ideas. There’s a million great ideas out there. The hard part is taking those good ideas and putting them out into the the world in way that the world can digest them. That’s the challenging part.

So I write this as a reminder to stay encouraged. It doesn’t matter what part of the creative process you’re in. It’s all hard. It takes guts to share your ideas. It takes boldness to show up to your creative endeavors. It takes heart to stay focused on your purpose. It’s no small feat but I know you’re capable.

I leave you with this weeks affirmations from the inspiring Julia Cameron,

Creativity is God’s will for your life

You got this

Imagination Play

As a kid, I loved imagination play when no one was looking. My favorite part of my room was where we set up house corner. I didn’t always have that room, but when I did, that was my favorite part. All the fake kitchen stuff was set up in a way that separated house corner from the rest of my room. My room was always a mess clothes, shoes, toys, everywhere but sometimes I’d climb over my mess and clean up my house corner to play in.

As a mom, I learned that we shouldn’t interrupt our children’s imagination play. It tears them from their world where all the magic happens. The same goes for my writing time. When I get interrupted, I’m torn from my world of imagination and creation. An entire plan can be lost in an instant. The best way I can describe it, is like a sea anemone going back into hidinh. (Thankfully, I’ve learned to write when the house settles down so I’m rarely interrupted at night.)

I think it’s silly how closely related the creative process is to being a child. Yes, we read bigger books and do research to figure how to portray what’s important to us. We work on our craft and on ourselves. We are putting in so much effort but is it just to get to the same place we were as children in house corner. Picasso once said,

It took me four years to paint like Raphael, but a lifetime to paint like a child.

I wonder what he meant by that?

Inspiring Myself

I’m taking my artist on a date tomorrow morning. One of the activities from the “Artist’s Way” by Julia Cameron, is going on artist dates. Here’s what she has to say about artist dates.

The Artist Date is a once-weekly, festive, solo expedition to explore
something that interests you. The Artist Date need not be overtly
“artistic” — think mischief more than mastery. Artist Dates fire up the
imagination. They spark whimsy. They encourage play. Since art is about the play of ideas, they feed our creative work by replenishing our inner well of images and inspiration. When choosing an Artist Date, it is good to ask yourself, “what sounds fun?” — and then allow yourself to try it.

Julia Cameron

She says doing these dates along with morning pages helps to keep the well full. When we aren’t out there experiencing the world in a way that bring us joy, we have less to write about.

It honestly feels like so much to ask. I feel bad asking for time to inspire myself while also having mom duties. But it’s important for me as an artist to have fun doing the things that make me feel adventurous and excited about life. I believe in the artist dates but at the same time I struggle with being consistent with my artist dates because it feels like a lot to ask.

When the going gets tough

When the going gets tough, admit it, find your peace, find the good, and keep going.

I wrote admit it because it’s important to talk about the hard times. That’s where connection lives. That’s where you find the will to face your demons. I placed it first because it takes priority to all the rest. We like to show the world that we got this. We like to pretend like we were born to carry the world on our shoulders. But that’s not how we grow. That’s not how we gain strong connections with others. That’s just getting started. The next step is finding your peace.

Once you realize what’s going on and discuss it with those you trust, it’s important to find your peace in the chaos. Your shelter in the storm. There’s too much that you can’t control. There’s too much that you’ve got to let go of. Finding your peace can be as challenging as admitting your struggles. People might even look at you like you’re not anxious enough. But if you can maintain peace in the storm, you’ll have the endurance to make it through to the other side. The peace you find is the best investment you can make for your present and your future.

The next step not necessarily in this order is finding the good. I’m not one for toxic positivity but I find that gratitude has it’s place in tough situations. Especially the complex ones.

And last but not least, keep going. Our lives go forward. Either we’re going to get dragged along or we’re going to stand up more forward with our own two feet. Don’t get me wrong, this isn’t about grief, anxiety, and depression. Sometimes you need to stop and let life go ahead for your own wellbeing. And I stand firmly by that. The point is, take the reigns of your life. Create the future you dream of. Do the healing you need to do to get there.

Sleep and Dreams

Last night was rough for me. I couldn’t sleep and had an annoying little stomach ache. It was not fun at all. Since I was up, I wrote a bit extra in hopes that it would help me sleep. I also drank some sleepy tea. I used to suffer from insomnia real bad. Like I didn’t even realize good sleep was thing. I wondered how people slept through all the sounds in their home without waking up once. Now I sleep through them.

I write about sleep a lot, even in my stories. It’s a natural part of life so I think our characters should do it in their own way. I do appreciate reading about dreams. I love the Red Book by Jung. I appreciate Revelation more so these days. For some reason, it scared me growing up. Now that I perceive it more as a dream it has less of a horror feel to it.

Dreams and nightmares are like a bonus full of symbolism, preperation for some future event that may or may not happen, answers to questions, or inspiration to creative pursuits. I love stories with a dreamy vision feel to them. I like art that way too. Which is why the Symbolist movement is one of my favorites.

I love hearing about people’s dreams and listening to them make sense of them in a deep way. I’ve read that we are the best ones to interpret our own dreams because they are ours. I do wonder though, are they an amalgam of our own subconscious and conscious? Are they a divine interventions? Are they something you should stake your life on?

What do you think?

And incase anyone else had a rough night,

8 Things Sleep Experts Do in the Morning After a Poor Night’s Sleep
By Jessica Migala  July 17, 2021 on Livestrong.com