Your Why Your Reason

Remind yourself of the things you love. Review your reasons why when life seems to be dragging you around.

I found my peace in rest and staying focused on my why the last couple days. Before that, life’s been giving me whirlwind weeks. Those weeks it’s easy to wanna throw in the towel. It’s easy to think, “maybe this just isn’t for me.” That is not true. It’s even more not true during whirlwind weeks.

There are jobs out there that may be better for some people. And there are things and places we need to step away from in life. Those aren’t the situations I’m talking about. I’m talking about the project you started that seems to keep backfiring on you. The job you started with pure intentions, with a curious mind and an eager heart. That job. That project. That’s the one I’m asking you to sit down and remember why you started it.

I’ll share my why. I began studying psychology to help my mom. Psychology lit my fire in so many ways. I lost track of myself after I had my first daughter, which I’m coming to learn is natural for women. Then I went to school to get my degree so I could get access to the best therapy programs for my mom. My mom has always been and always will be my reason.

What’s yours?

Write Myself Free

I don’t wanna write myself into a hole. I wanna write myself free. I wanna write myself into the place that makes me better than I was yesterday.

If I could I’d write a million dollars into my bank account. If I could I’d write my family and friends safe and healthy lives. I’d write family vacations and new cars.

I wanna have something to look back at thats more than vacations and money in the bank. I wanna look back and see that we’ve grown closer as a family. I wanna see how I learned myself and how I learned more about the ones I love.

I guess it’s important that I use my writing to do both. Write into abundance. Abundant love and relationships. Abundant growth and learning.

I’m sure there’s a way. I’m sure I’m on the right track.

Drunk on Writing

You must stay drunk on writing so reality cannot destroy you,

Ray Bradbury

I have committed to this philosophy when it comes to my novel. For a short time, I focused only on formal editing. Grammar, wording, formatting and completely lost touch with my novel. It didn’t feel good to keep working on something I had no connection with. It even caused me to think things needed changing but they were put in the proper place at the proper time. I was just so distant from my story that I was not aware of the flow and timing anymore.

It’s the same for me with anything. If I step away from something for too long, I lose touch with it and I forget why I started doing it in the first place.

So lately I’ve been trying to get myself to work on all my projects daily. Some days I accomplish more one project than others. It works though because even when I’m doing a little bit, it keeps me in the flow. It keeps me in the loop and in the right mindset that will have me ready for what’s to come.

Marching

Don’t let a few mistakes keep you from reaching your potential. Adjust. Rethink. Reorganize. Keep marching on. There’s supposed to be mistakes! The world where people act like everything’s perfect and fine is over. We fess up. We talk about feelings and we try our best to connect with others. Plus, you know what they always say,

You’re doing better than you think.

Art in One Quote

We work in the dark – we do what we can – we give what we have. Our doubt is our passion and our passion is our task. The rest is the madness of art.

Henry James

Going into this writing thing the madness was glorious. Now I’m just tired and not interested in all the hype. I need like a million naps.

Hang On

Don’t be the thing you let go of for success. The key to success is to hang onto all of you as if your life depended on it. The things that bring you joy. The places that put a smile on your face. The scent that whisks you away from all your troubles. These are all parts of you. They are yours to enjoy and search out and celebrate finding. Learn to adore your body. Heal the parts that need healing. This is what it is live. When you place other things before your relationship with yourself, you get lost. You forget your values and what made them your values in the first place. You eventually become a stranger in your own body full of conflicting ideas that aren’t even your to conflict with.

Life’s better when you’re present.

Moving Forward

Today sped by faster than I could say please give me your best chocolate cake. I’m super tired. I got a lot done but now I’m so tired, I’m not having very much fun. Some days may be like this. But I want to do my best to work in a way that I can still enjoy time with my family and time with myself.

I have my tea in hand and I’m going to take a shower and have a cup of tension tamer before bed.

I’m happy to be alive. I’m happy to live the way I live right now. I want to keep the good times coming.

A poem to keep me moving forward.

In Good Time…

© Abimbola T. Alabi 

Life can seem an endless maze,
The twists and turns, lulls and delays,
But things always fall into place…
In good time.

Friends will sometimes go away.
Some may disappoint or others betray,
But new ones will come to stay…
In good time.

The hurt of getting something wrong,
And the lesson it often brings along
Are there, you see, to make you strong…
In good time.

Kindness freely given away,
Unnoticed now, will somehow find its way
Back to you and come to stay…
In good time.

Efforts seem not to pay to plan?
Forge on friend, doing the best you can.
Fortune will find the deserving man…
In good time.

Life can be tough, there’s no doubt,
But hope is the thing we can’t do without.
Right things with joy will come about…
In good time.

Source: https://www.familyfriendpoems.com/poem/in-good-time-4

Mom Moment (a quick one)

Today has been a special day for my little one. She turned three! And she’s full of so many great adventures ahead. I want to explore the world with her because she’s amazed by everything and who doesn’t love an excited 3 year old?!

I’m grateful for this day to celebrate my big 3 year old’s existence. I’m grateful for my family and my mama who came along to enjoy our celebration. Any my family who celebrated with us in spirit.

My little girls are a gift and worthy of celebrating every chance I get. I want to be their number one fan for always.

Write with Me

Writing has brought me a long way. Writing, mentors, and self love have changed me for the best. I still have a lot of work to do. It’s still pretty hard for me to choose myself and me time over family/home time. Even just once a week I struggle to take myself out for myself. I don’t struggle with taking phone breaks in the house, I don’t struggle with finding time to clean and organize in a way that makes me feel good about my home. I struggle with taking myself out to just enjoy life however that looks. Whether it’s lunch, arts and crafts shopping, doing the craft, shopping for myself etc.

But outside of that, I’ve learned to set boundaries, I’ve learned to make my yes! more valuable. I’ve learned to find value in life in a variety of different ways. I even learned how it feels to truly love myself inside and out. And I’m dedicated to learning and understanding myself from here on out.

Before all this, life didn’t feel meant for me but when I write, I feel like I can create a life that was literally designed for me.