1. Allow yourself to fall. Cry, scream, nap, do self care.
2. Get healthy. Healthy diet and exercise help with a healthy mind.
3. Talk it out. Find someone who is in a healthy place emotionally to talk it out.
4. Set goals to focus on for the next year. Not so focused they become a crutch just a means to move forward.
5. Surround yourself with communities that share your interests.
6. Trust your gut. When something doesn’t feel right, trust that. Don’t let people take advantage of your vulnerable state. If they weren’t there through the struggle chances are they won’t be there through the healing.
7. Move forward. Stay away from environments that no longer serve you. Learn the signs and patterns of toxic behaviors and set boundaries immediately so you don’t end up in the same situations over and over again.
8. Learn to be ok alone. Become your own best friend. Learn yourself. Take up hobbies. Feed your brain.
The Art of Letting Go
These are in no particular order. And are all tiny pieces that go into creating a masterpiece. “Creating a masterpiece” can be a general term, but ideally the whole thing is a process. Here’s a few things I feel go into my own writing-a-masterpiece process.
- Talking with like-minded people
- Going on adventures
- Research and self study
- Differing opinions/ contradiction
- That one thing that keeps you going
- and for me Tea
Last week’s list
6 reasons why you should write today.
The many ways women fight oppression
Breaking men’s hearts
Ridding themselves of all things beauty
Working their asses off to prove they can do what men can
Staying home and doing what they love
Embracing all things beauty
being confident in their body
Learning self defense
Creating a workplace the supports women’s needs
Picking up male mannerisms
Letting men help around the house
Being the breadwinner
Being a mom
Eating healthy and going to gym
Voicing their opinions
Yelling and screaming
Hiring more women in the workplace
Teaching more women
Supporting more women emotionally spiritually and financially
Shake Shakin what they mama gave em…
The list infinite… And I’m open to hearing more
Six reasons why you should stop doing what you’re doing and write right now.
- You’ll have something to look back on. Not only to see your own growth but to have those memories you hold so dear.
- To learn from your experiences. It’s much easier to learn from your experiences when they are written down. Sometimes our brain remembers things wrong. It likes to play tricks on us. Smh, the brain is such an unreliable thing.
- It can be healing in so many ways. It could help you figure out what’s holding you back, or why you developed some quirky ritual or habit years ago. It can make ideas and concepts more clear and concrete. Writing can heal in so many ways.
- You’ll have something to leave behind. Everyone has so many different experiences and for me it’s nice to read and observe how others deal with experiences similar to my own. It can help other humans feel less alone. It can be eye opening and relieving. It could talk someone off the ledge. Seriously.
- You’ll have done something. Even if not one person reads your stuff you’ll have made a difference in yourself for yourself and that’s what’s most important. As they say you can’t truly help someone else until you help yourself.
- It can be cathartic. (Thank you Nory for that one.) I was telling her I wanted to set my screen play on fire cuz I’m so over it. She said that would be cathartic and that I should do it. Then I had to google the word cathartic. lol Writing can give you a release you don’t get in other places. Once in a great while things just come together and realization happens. Which can help you progress mentally or spiritually.
Thanks for reading! Hopefully this post has inspired you to write!